Coupled up or coupled down?

The waiting game.

As women we've all been through it, the anxiety as we replay every single detail of a date over in our heads, then relaying it to everyone of our girlfriends as they listen with the utmost engagement. This all poses one question - why is dating so hard? Why can't we just meet the man of our dreams, tell them how we feel and have them give us a thumbs up or thumbs down and then we get on with our day? 

There's much more to it, how do we know he's the right one after only a few dates, or years? truth is, we don't. The same principal applies to knowing weather or not he's the wrong one after a few minutes? We don't. It seems there's all these rules to dating, don't call him - let him call you, if he wants to make it happen he will, and while I agree with most of these, there's always an exception. There is always insecurities in everyone, and these play a huge part in how dates respond. What if he wasn't sure if you liked him even though you're sure you showed him your interest? Nothing, that's his issue to deal with, us women need to stop focusing on the fact that dating is integrated into our society as a norm. 

Being coupled up can be acknowledged as a success and singledom somehow means you're less of a person. It's more likely the other way around, it takes a stronger person to be single - to love and be with themselves, and deal with their own issues head on that it does to bury them in a hasty relationship. Only when you have learned to be single will  you find that person who seemingly effortlessly waltzes into your life and takes you by surprise. 

If my inspiration waffle isn't enough, here are my ladies recipe rules for successful dating and or rekindling after a breakup

• Don't call him, he'll call you - okay, so I stole this one; but it also applies to fights, if you're the one who doesn't answer the phone, it'll drive him crazy leading him to be the one to come back. 
• Don't text him if you miss him - sounds silly right? Every time you text, he gets this silly little dork smirk going on, because he knows what you're actually saying is 'I'm weak, and I need you' 
• Disappear - Absence makes the heart grow fonder. This will cause his small man mind to wander to all the good times and for at least a second forget why you broke up. Our memories tend to float back to when we were last happy or felt good. Have him doing this long enough and he'll be begging for you back - and he'll probably be all mushy from the lovey dovey memories too.
• Live your life - There's nothing sexier than a woman who gets up and goes, literally; get yourself in shape, switch to a healthier eating regime, spend time doing things you love that you'd put off, and map your single future, focus on your life purpose or career. 
• Dress up for yourself - and go out with the girls, even go on a date with yourself! Whose company could be better?

I hope these tips helped, because together we can fight the coupled-up epidemic forced upon us at twenty somethings by our peers and society; in turn creating fierce independent vixens! So take care, vixens.