You are worthy of love

The concept of self-love

The concept of self-love has never felt completely real to me, possible because I've never par-taken in it. I've battled with self-esteem issues my entire life like I'm sure every other woman on the planet has. If there's one thing blogging has taught me it is that you can choose to share what you like about your life - the negatives can seemingly not exist. This way it's easy for us to hold unrealistic assumptions about someone else or their life being perfect. 

I can't tell you how to love yourself, but I can tell you that when you follow your heart - really work towards making your passions a career or life pursuit; only then will you find true self-love. It's about acknowledging who you want to be and putting goals in place to become that person. It's about knowing what you can and cannot change about yourself, physically, mentally and circumstantially - then acting on this in a positive manner.

I am single now, for the first time in a long while. It's the hardest yet most liberating feeling in the world. I want to cry and rejoice at the same time. I was single for a year before I got into this previous relationship, but it was a year wasted as far as self development went. I did change career path, which was a success so far in terms of learning more about myself. But I really didn't do any soul searching. I thought I needed someone, I wanted someone to fill my void - a void I had thought my last relationship left. But it was a void inside me the whole time. As a consequence I wasn't ready at all for my most recent relationship, and it ended in heartache. So you must fill your own voids in life, because you can add a partner to the mix.

Personally, when I was about 14 years of age I had my 5 year plan mapped out. By 18 I would leaving my country of origin, New Zealand and set up a life in Canada. Why? Because I boy I once loved now lived there. Because I wasn't happy with myself so I essentially wanted to escape from myself. I had no plan, no short-term goals, no career plans. Now at 24 years of age I've had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I 'failed' my little plan. But I'm slowly coming to terms with the fact that it really was for the best. I'ts best not to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves, life can change in a week, a day, a second. So don't take anything for granted, because someone once told me - the only moment you truly have, is the present. Don't waste your right now.